Early Morning

It's just about time to wake Jon up.  Mornings start at 4:00 a.m. when Bruce gets up, Chris gets up at 5:30, and sweet Jon gets to sleep in until 7:30 when he contests that he's just too tired to wake up.  lol  In the quiet of the morning, I should be studying right now.  I have a goal to finish my math course by the end of the month, but I fear that this goal is overzealous.  I should be able to test out of the second math course if I know all the course material for this one as it goes well beyond what I'm tested over.  That would be nice and would put me 2 months into the semester and 1 course past my minimum requirements. 

I'm feeling a little reflective this morning and I want to just say that I love all of you unconditionally.  No matter what you do.  Promise me something - do not form negative opinions of those you love, especially without making absolutely sure that those opinions are accurate and that it really matters.  Love your friends and family for who they are even if it's not what you would be or what you would want them to be.  A dear friend once told me that everyone has the right to screw up their own lifes as best they can.  What he meant is not to try to  push others into doing what you want them to do or be like.  Do not put those you love in the situation where you feel that because they are not like you want them to be, you have a negative opinion about them.  Let me tell you a story.  One of my kids told someone that he has to cook for himself.  The person he told that to blindly believed it and made that statement into something it wasn't.  What he meant is that the kids are asked to make sandwiches on Saturday afternoons as everyone is busy and they are old enough to learn a little independence.  Sometimes they don't like what I make for dinner so I tell them to make themselves mac-n-cheese.  What that other person heard is that my kids are "often left to fend for themselves."  That made me look neglective.  I have never been anything but the most deeply loving of parents and that person knew this and should have questioned it.  It was easier and much more sensational to believe that I don't feed my kids.  This is clearly out of character and I am hurt that this person would not even question it.  This is but one example of many I could cite where my loved ones attacked me and formed inaccurate and unjust opinions based on incomplete facts.  This is one of the most hurtful things I have ever experienced and I would beg you all not to do that to your friends and family.  Not a day goes by that I don't feel anger and hurt to the point where I wonder if I could ever forget.  Just know, everyone, that I love you all for who you are and I will continue to love you no matter what. 

Well, got to go wake up the Jon-man.

 

What did you think of this article?




Trackbacks
  • No trackbacks exist for this entry.
Comments

  • 12/10/2008 8:08 PM tracy locke wrote:
    You are so right. I do that all of the time with Brad and it just makes our relationship suffer and really pushes him further from "what I want him to be". You are a great mom and my kids make their own meal several times in a week and it doesn't hurt them a bit..I don't cook every night and they can make soup or a tv dinner as well as I can. We beat ourselves up enough as women and we need others to support us not judge us. i love you for who you are, too!
    Reply to this
Leave a comment

Submitted comments will be subject to moderation before being displayed.

 Enter the above security code (required)

 Name

 Email (will not be published)

 Website

Your comment is 0 characters limited to 3000 characters.